Coping with Stress and Anxiety - A Psychotherapist's Tips for a Healthy Mind

We all feel anxious and stressed from time to time. It'sDon't be afraid to talk to someone about what you're
just factored into life itself.going through and what you're feeling. Choose a good
As we go through life, we naturally seem to adjust tofriend or trusted family member and sit down for a
a reasonable amount of stress and anxiety and wechat.
just get on with things.If you really cannot think of anyone and you're feeling
It's when stress and anxiety become unmanageable,desperate then the Samaritans are a wonderful
when they overwhelm us, threatening to bring things tosource of support.
a grinding halt that something needs to be done aboutThere really is little point in running over the same things
them.time and time again if you are not prepared to actually
But there is really no necessity to wait for this todo something about those things.
happen.There is a saying in therapy circles: 'If you do what
There are some simple things we can do to manageyou've always done, you'll get what you always got'.
our lives better and make a difference to our moodAs you talk things over, try your best to see what
and our outlook.needs to be changed in order for things to be different.
Here are 3 important and helpful things that anyoneA good friend, therapist or counselor can be truly
can do.helpful in getting things back into perspective so that
1. Accept Yourselfyou can move on past the anxiety and stress.
When we are at war on the inside, then very little3. Put Yourself First
goes well on the outside. After all, we see things notTry something new.
as they are, but as we are.Yes, perhaps it does feel like everyone wants a piece
As we journey through life, it's so easy to becomeof you. But so do you. And unless you invest time in
self-critical and to beat ourselves up for past mistakesyourself then you won't have much to give to anyone
and shortcomings.else.
But what, really, is the value of doing this? Does itMaybe it's time to get a little bit more selfish. After all,
make us better human beings?you really are worth it!
Of course not.Why not learn a new skill?
But sometimes, even though we know this, we justLearning something new stimulates your mind and
don't find it easy to come to terms with and to acceptreally does increase your confidence. Self-hypnosis,
who we are.meditation, tai chi, yoga, for example, are all fascinating
The fact is that until we have achieved some degreeand can bring you into contact with new people,
of success in the area of self-acceptance then weproviding a fresh perspective on life.
can find ourselves in a constant state of stress andYou don't need to learn new skills in a group setting, of
anxiety.course. You can buy a recording or a book. And your
Inside each of us there is a good, positive human being.library has many books that will enable you to get a
Why not try a gentler, kinder approach to yourself?real grasp on many new skills and interests.
Remind yourself of all your positive qualities. Focus onMake these 3 basic changes in your life and watch
what you have, not on what you do not have. Youhow thing change and become so much more
might be surprised at how much you have going formanageable.
you.Invest in yourself and that investment will pay real
2. Talk About Itdividends!